You never know what someone is going through..... I had a series of really bad stuff happen to me all in what seemed quick succession and it cost me dear in customers for my painting business.
Misdiagnosed with Lung Cancer (took a while to find out I was OK), told I had emphysema!!, I just got more and more breathless as time went on, pretty much gave upon life, deep clinical depression (I'd always been very active), turned out that I'd had more than one heart attack! Stent fitted. Then I lost my partner of 13 years- she just asked me to leave- I don't blame her either. Basically it took a very long time for me to get to where I am now and I guess that I'm saying that often it's worth giving someone the benefit of the doubt. I know that at times gone by as explained above, it was almost impossible for me to physically get out of bed due to serious depression. I don't mind talking openly about it now, I'm much fitter than I have been for years (ironic as I was never what you would call unfit).
Of course, there are rogues out there but I reckon they are few and far between in our hobby.
Sorry for getting all serious and giving you the blues jam, I just think that it's worth giving folk the benefit of the doubt at times. This is in no way mean't to be critical of you- it sounds like you have been very patient.
Darrell.