A very enjoyable exchange and blog post, with many things that resonate.
If unfinished projects emotionally bother you, if they create friction within the family or generate storage challenges in your living space, or if they consume money badly needed for other things, there's clearly a problem.
But if the lead pile is no bother, family is content, storage space sufficient and tidy, and funds available, one's concerns are clearly less.
There is an important competing value proposition here: what enjoyable, affirming, or socially beneficial things might one be doing if not painting little troops and such? This is the opportunity cost of the venture, and precisely the same for any leisure-based deployment of our time. How much is enough? And how much is reasonable before it begins to edge out home maintenance or parenting or community service or work? There is also the possibility that we create such time-urgent demands on ourselves, especially in complex or large-scale hobby projects, that they start to become work, and therefore perhaps a source of stress instead of solace.
This leads to a related enjoyment proposition: what things about the hobby are your sources of greatest joy, from research and reading to collecting and painting to playing and competing? Thinking of your stash's eventual disposition to descendants, the local gaming group, or the waste bin might be practical but it's also rather daunting. The easier but no less relevant questions are about the things in which you find real joy, and constructing ways to do more of those and less of the others.
Personally, the hobby is a mostly solitary pursuit by design because my work is busy ad people focussed, and I use precious hobby hours to restore some life balance. Because of this, I devote vast amounts of time to reading, research, OOB organization, and painting, and almost none to playing, displaying, or competing. My stash is large but very well organized, and my work table usually tidy and well managed.
On the flip side, there are tons of quasi-finished projects, including a few of the stop-and-start variety, a large 'inheritance' that will annoy a child or grandchild someday, and plenty of social opportunities I've probably missed while quietly noodling away in the hobby dungeon.
I could certainly use a similar abstention from buying, but acquiring is also part of the fun.
Thanks for the thoughtful piece.